BASIC WOUNDS

1. Betrayal

If this wound is active within you, you may live with a constant fear of being betrayed — by others or even by life itself.

Betrayal often begins in childhood and echoes throughout adult life. It shows up in close relationships — with parents, siblings, children, friends, romantic partners — as well as in professional dynamics with colleagues, clients, business partners, or institutions.

But the deepest betrayal is often self-betrayal — when you give up on your own desires, needs, or truth in order to be accepted or avoid conflict.

To protect themselves from betrayal, many people try to control everything and everyone around them. They become dominant, rigid, and emotionally closed. They struggle to express affection, feel insecure in love, and often become possessive — ultimately leading to emotional dissatisfaction and isolation.

Others go to the opposite extreme: they become submissive, lose confidence, doubt their own worth, and stop believing they can have what they truly want. They shrink their dreams. They lose momentum. They end up discouraged, seeking external validation by trying to please others, over-serving, overworking, becoming ‘good employees,’ conquerors, or caretakers.

The fear of betrayal also leads to a refusal to face uncomfortable truths. Many prefer sweet lies — from others and from themselves — choosing illusion over authenticity.
And so, they end up living disconnected from their own essence... and from true fulfillment.

3. Humiliation

With this wound, you may feel a deep sense of inferiority. You tend to submit to others without questioning whether it truly makes sense, believing that they possess qualities you lack. You may feel that others are simply lucky in life, while you are “punished by fate.”

Fearing humiliation, many endure all kinds of suffering, often allowing others to take advantage of their perceived weakness — whether they are fully aware of it or not.

You might unconsciously sabotage yourself, creating negative situations and outcomes, without realizing that you are the one holding yourself back.

Freedom feels frightening because you don’t feel empowered to manage it. Instead, you let others lead you, accepting punishment or control that reinforces the subconscious belief in your own inferiority. You become your own worst enemy, trapped in self-deprecation that feels natural and unavoidable.

As a result, you live a dull, modest life that doesn’t truly belong to you — and you might not even realize that a different, more fulfilling life is possible.

5. Rejection

People with this wound often struggle to like themselves—or swing to narcissism, focusing only on their own needs. They long to be loved by others, but their attempts are often marked by impulsiveness and anger, which leads to conflicts or failed relationships.

They feel exposed and unprotected, lacking a sense of safety in their own lives. This insecurity drives them to create strong defenses - sometimes literally, like adding extra locks to their doors.

The fear of rejection itself creates a cycle of rejection. They feel rejected and, in turn, reject the very solutions or people who could help them. They hide, preferring invisibility, and some even isolate themselves, refusing to welcome anyone into their home.

They lack initiative or, if they have ideas, they don’t act on them out of fear of failure. They tend to perform best only when part of a group or system, relying on belonging for support.

Without a clear direction aligned with their own good, many settle into being perfect employees - doing anything for the company just to keep their job.