BASIC WOUNDS

1. Betrayal

With this wound, you live in fear that you are betrayed or that you may be betrayed. Every person lives situations in which they are betrayed, either in relationships with the close ones (siblings, parents, children, or other family members), or with business partners, co-workers, clients, institutions, organizations. Most of the time, people betray themselves: they abandon their own desires.

Fearing that they may be betrayed, many people come to dominate others, imposing themselves on others. They do not show their affection in relationships, they feel insecure, they become possessive and end up leading an emotionally unfulfilled life.

On the other hand, betrayal leads many people to be dominated, losing their self-confidence, they feel worthless. They no longer have enough courage to take action. They discourage themselves.

They end up not wanting anything anymore, because they don't think they can get it. That is why they seek validation in other ways (seek to be pleasing, do service to others, become conquerors, become ‘good employees’ ...)

Fearing that they may be betrayed, people do not have the courage to accept the truth of their lives. They prefer to be lied to nicely, and to lie to themselves, without realizing it. In this way, they end up living in a lie, so an unfulfilled life.

3. Humiliation

With this wound, people feel inferior. They submit to many, without thinking whether it makes sense or not, they think others have qualities that they do not have. They believe that others are lucky in life, and they are 'punished by fate'.

Fearing that they may be humiliated, many people end up enduring all kinds of suffering, the will of others who take advantage of them, of their weakness (of which they are aware or not).

They self-sabotage, they create negative situations and outcomes, most of them not being aware that they are doing it to themselves.

They are afraid of freedom because they do not feel that they have the power to live in freedom, to manage freedom. Thus they let themselves be led by others. They allow themselves to be punished, to reconfirm their subconscious belief that they are inferior, turning themselves into their own enemies, without understanding. Self-deprecation is natural for them.

They end up living a dull, modest life that does not belong to them, without even thinking that otherwise is possible.

5. Rejection

People who have this wound do not like themselves or become narcissists, being interested only in themselves.
They seek to be loved by others, but most who try use impulsiveness and anger, which leads to conflict or failed relationships.

They feel exposed, unprotected. They do not feel safe in their own lives, so they need a high-performance protection system to protect their property. They even install a second lock to their main door.

The fear that they can be rejected which creates rejection in itself. They feel rejected, and they end up rejecting the solutions they are looking for, or even those around them who can help. They hide, preferring not to be visible. Some even end up not accepting anyone in their home.

They do not have their own initiatives, or if they have ideas, they do not put them into practice. They are afraid that they will not manage on their own. They can only perform when they belong to a group / system.

They do not have a clear direction in life that is for their own good. That's why many become perfect employees, who do anything for the company they work for, just to keep their job.